Self-disclosure in communication
Self-disclosure refers to frankly telling each other about personal problems.
Such problems include personal personal feelings, personal hobbies, past experiences, various heart desires, and even personal shortcomings and shortcomings.
This situation is particularly common in women.
Some people may think that these private affairs are open in the social inconvenience, especially if you tell others your shortcomings and deficiencies, it is easy for people to look down on yourself.
This is not the case.
In interpersonal communication, self-disclosure is necessary.
It can balance and adjust the self-mindset, and can get the understanding and help of others, so as to continuously restore self-improvement.
At the same time, it can increase the trust of the other party and speed up the process of mutual friendship.
It should be noted that self-disclosure does not mean that there is no scruples. This sense of proportion is important.
If you look at this, it will lead to some advance trouble in communication.
The following points need attention.
1. It is necessary to gradually increase the frankness of communication.
If you meet for the first time, you will rush out and take out your own heart. Instead of using the heart to change your heart, on the contrary, the other party will have such an impression: heartless, lungless, unsteady, unobstructed, and unabletrust.
It can be seen that self-disclosure should be a process.
2. Differentiate occasions and objects.
If you talk and experience when winning the award, even if it is all true feelings, it will make people feel that they are showing off themselves, and it is easy to cause resentment from others.
If the lover in Huaqianyue is dating and keeps silent about his own affairs, but just talks about some philosophy of life in the misty mountains, he will feel dishonest and hard to trust.
The ancients said: “We can’t give up all our hearts when we talk about people.
“These words are outdated today, but if you do not distinguish between relatives, distant and close, even if you first make a deep friendship, it is very problematic to be blind and frank.
Although deep friends know your heart, first-time friends may be puzzled or even doubt your motivation for communication.
In addition, any word of conscience is different from person to person, and some can only speak to the same sex, and when they speak to the opposite sex, they will encounter abruptness.
Some can only speak to their peers, and suddenly disrespect them.
All these are etiquette details that should be noticed in social interaction.
3, can not force others with their own hearts.
Self-disclosure should be two-way in theory.
However, due to each person’s experience and personality, the degree of frankness and the way of expression are also different.
You can’t think that people who are good at speaking are showing off because of your introverted personality; you ca n’t think that people who are good at speaking are showing because you are introverted;Is showing off.
Everyone has both an open self that you know, I know, and a concealed self that knows heaven, earth, and oneself.
If you venture into someone else’s hidden area, it will lead to embarrassment and embarrassment, and in the other case, the relationship will be broken.
Remember, in communication, you can only exchange back many true “he” s if you have just rightly held out a real “me”.
Just right, are the four words that women should always keep in mind.